WHAT PLANNING A WEDDING HAS TAUGHT ME


I am getting married in just seven months, and although I am beyond excited, I am also beyond stressed out. The moment Sage and I got together we knew we had found our person, we were it for each other, and marriage was always the plan. I always planned on planning the day myself, and thought I'd share what planning my own wedding has taught me.

YOU WILL GO OVER YOUR SET GUEST LIST NUMBER
At first I wanted a wedding with just us and a few of our closest family, but Sage is so close to his family that we decided to make it a little bigger. Our day will still be a rather intimate occasion, but we have definitely gone over our set list by a fair bit. 

IT WILL NEVER BE JUST AS YOU IMAGINED
I always wanted a beautiful forest wedding with lots of fairy-lights, a fireworks send off, and maybe even a horse-drawn carriage (every girl has a princess dream!). Unless you are a millionaire, you are not going to get exactly what you always dreamed of. So far my wedding is still turning out to be a beautiful occasion, and in the end all I truly want is to say 'I Do' to the man I love and then celebrate with the ones I treasure most. 


PEOPLE EXPLOIT WEDDINGS
The moment you mention 'wedding' the price goes up! I have made it a habit of mine to ask the price of something for an event, and then once I get a quote I will say it is for my wedding. I have had people raise the price by almost $500 with no real reasoning. If that happens, I always say "no thank you", and most of the time they will go back to their original quote. Sometimes it pays to be a little bit deceptive.

PEOPLE WILL LET YOU DOWN
When we first announced our engagement, we were flooded with support and congratulations. Everybody wanted to help and be a part of our big day. Now it's a different tune. A few relationships have fallen apart, people who I loved so much have decided that they can't put their differences aside with somebody else in order to attend. Promises have been broken and tears have been shed. It is part of life, and in a way I am glad that those colours have been shown now, where I have time to grieve and move on, instead of on the day. 

THE STRESS, HEARTACHE AND PAIN IS ALL WORTH IT
The most important lesson I learnt from planning my own wedding is that in the end, all I want is to marry Sage. Some days, I wish I could just run away and get married tomorrow - but I know that when I am standing up their holding Sage's hand whilst the people we care about watch on - it will be so worth it.  

Perhaps I should start a support group, there will be lots of wine and chocolate! Will you, or have you planned your own wedding?

With love, 
Paige. x

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